Understanding the "Code"

Just thought I'd post something relevant to many of you guys visiting my page, especially for some of you who have never tried this before.  These words are taken directly from a massage blog found on massagem4m.com.  two thirds down I added a few words of my own pertaining to how I work.  So read that too.  I also provide a link to the actual article for you all to access if you wish.

Getting a massage is a great way to relax and improve your overall health, mood and well being. But in order to achieve the level of relaxation desired, your mind must be free from distraction and unhindered by doubt or confusion. As gay men, sometimes we feel more comfortable in the presence of other gay men and as such, would prefer a gay male massage therapist working on us while we're in an exposed state. It's important while getting a massage, that you are completely comfortable and able to let your guard down to receive the full benefits the session can provide.

We've worked to make it easy to find listings of gay masseurs in your area. With easy search options, detailed profiles and real reviews, we've taken the guesswork out of booking your next massage.

Knowing where to start is just the first step. It's essential to go into the appointment knowing everything ahead of time so there are no surprises or issues that arise during your session. With that said, here are 10 tips on booking your next gay massage.

• Know what you want before you search - Before contacting potential masseurs, you'll want to decide exactly what type of services you are looking for.
  • First you'll need to select the type of massage you want. Do you want something that's strictly therapeutic, or more on the wild side? Or perhaps a combination of both?
  • Then you'll need to choose whether you want an In Call (where you go to the masseur's location) or an Out Call (where the masseur comes to you) session.
  • Last, you'll want to figure out what your budget is and exactly how much you are willing to spend.
  Once you have made up your mind about what you want from the massage, you're ready to start your search.
• Read a Masseur's Profile thoroughly - Each masseur's profile provides detailed information on the services they provide. In most cases, many questions you may have are already answered within the profile. Some profiles are more detailed than others, but it's important to read each profile thoroughly. You may find that a masseur offers additional services, is featuring a special, or even provides specific information on the best way and time to contact them. You'll also find this makes the booking process faster and smoother, because the masseur is not answering questions that have already been addressed in their profile. Reading the masseur's profile is also a good time to come up with any questions you may have.
• Therapeutic vs. Erotic, Understanding the "Code" - One of the great things about a site like MassageM4M.com is that you have the option of selecting the exact type of massage you are looking for. You'll find everything from strictly therapeutic, to erotic & exciting and everything in between. But since Erotic Massage can be a taboo subject, some masseurs are more suggestive than direct when it comes to advertising these services. The key to figuring this out is by understanding the different types of massage listed. On MassageM4M.com, you'll find three basic types of massage: Therapeutic, Sensual and Erotic. You may find a masseur only offers one of these styles, or a combination of a few. Here's a basic explanation of each of the three types:
  • Therapeutic - Therapeutic Massage consists of the working of superficial and deeper layers of muscle and connective tissue using various techniques, to enhance function, aid in the healing process, and promote relaxation and well-being. This would be a similar style of massage that you may find at your local day spa. 
  • Sensual - Sensual Massage typically features the touching and rubbing of the entire body including the more erogenous zones to increase stimulation. This type of massage may not be overtly sexual, but offer sensual elements.
  • Erotic - Typically an Erotic Massage consists of both you and the massage therapist being nude and usually includes a release (aka "happy ending") for you. Again, each masseur has a different style and an experience with one masseur may not be identical to another. You should always communicate exactly what you are looking for with your therapist. One last thing to mention...just because a masseur offers erotic services does not mean they are an escort. Do not assume they are going to take it to the next level.Some masseurs do offer escort services, but unless they openly advertise otherwise, don't assume.  Likewise, if a masseur does provide escort services, and offers an 'upgrade' of sorts, do not feel obligated to do anything you don't want to. 
  •  As we mentioned, some masseurs may offer a combination of these types of massage. For example you may find a therapist who offers a strictly therapeutic massage, while another masseur offers a Therapeutic & Sensual session. As with any aspect to your upcoming massage, your best option is to ask the masseur when you make your appointment for any special requests or requirements you may have.

This part is added by me.  

"In this case I do offer escort service too, but my fee for that is higher and the details for this type of service must always be ironed out before the session begins  So for this and several other reasons, I chose to speak with all clients prior.  All my full service clients leave very happy they agreed up front to spend that type of quality time with me. 

More tips taken from the massage blog to share here with you continue below so READ ON.

• Agree on everything beforehand - Like we mentioned before, it's important to go into your session comfortable and without confusion. Be sure you discuss:
  • exactly what you want,
  • the rate to be paid,
  • length of appointment
  during the booking process. The last thing you want is to arrive expecting something, only to be disappointed.
• Communicate changes - Be sure to communicate any changes with your masseur. If you're running late, have to postpone or cancel an appointment, let the masseur know as soon as possible. Remember this is a business for them and last minute cancellations are never pleasant for anyone. On the contrary, your massage therapist should also communicate any changes with you as well.
• Tipping - If you enjoyed your session, it is customary to tip your massage therapist. Of course tipping is not required and not necessarily considered bad form if you choose not to tip. There is no standard for the amount of the tip, just go with how you feel at the end.

This article gives a few more tips, like make sure you have the correct location if the masseur travels.  He may be out of town when you try him.  Also, if you don't get a respond, just move on and find another. 

The link for you to read the article in its entirety is http://www.massagem4m.com/blog/10-tips-booking-your-next-gay-massage/

Feel free to post any questions as I would be happy to answer.